For the beginning you should know that you have to cooperate with you partner. If you want to make full pleasure to your partner, you should make that penis massage lasts longer then 5 mins.
That means that he needs to give you some sign just before ejaculation. If you repeat this „peaking“ process, your partner can „learn“ how to control his ejaculation and to make sex more pleasurable to you and to him as well. As I said delaying ejaculation during the course of the massage is desirable from the perspective of maximizing pleasure, many partners do like to finish the massage with one.
As an aside, it should be noted that a nice feature of male genital massage is that an erection is not required for it to feel good. Some massage strokes actually feel BETTER when the penis is soft.
There are many different penis massage strokes that feel good on male genitals. One approach that some people favor is selecting two favorite strokes, and for a period of time alternating between them every once in a while.
Anvil Stroke
Bring one hand down, letting it stroke the penis from the top all the way to the bottom. When it hits the bottom, release it. Meanwhile, bring your other hand to the top of the penis and repeat. Here are some of “anvil stroke” penis massage types:
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Bookends
Place both of your hands side by side against his shaft like a pair of bookends. Now push hard against his penis. Then lift your hands up and down. Continue in this manner for a while.
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Doorknob
Turn the head of his penis like you’re trying to open a doorknob coated with grease. Now try turning the other way and repeat. This stroke is sometimes improved by using the other hand to stretch the skin of the penis toward the base.
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Double Whammy
Bring both well-lubricated hands down on his shaft. Some cocks are so big they require both hands; if your partner’s doesn’t, then use the other hand to caress and lightly flutter his balls, or tighten around the base of his shaft. If both hands fit along the length of the shaft then move them together, up and down, in the typical pumping motion. Pretend you’re holding a tennis racket and are about to score a Grand slam. You can also vary the directions of your hands: one up, one down at the same time. If it’s practiced, this penis massage might be the best one!
Climbing the Mountain
Take the penis in one hand and gently, sensuously caress it for about 10 seconds, then give it one quick up-and-down stroke. Repeat the sensuous caressing for about 10 seconds (perhaps using slow up-and-down strokes), and then give the penis two quick up-and-down strokes. Repeat the caressing, then give three quick strokes and so on. Continue until ejaculation approaches inevitability, then slow down or stop so that ejaculation may be avoided. (From the book SM 101: A Realistic Introduction, second edition.)
Jelqing (Make your partner’s dick bigger)
Jelqing is a type of massage. It is gripped in one of the hands such that the thumb and the forefinger form a ring around the penis shaft. When a proper grip is obtained, then the ring is slowly pulled towards the head. Once the hand reaches the top (the HEAD), it must be released and brought again to the shaft. The jelq must be repeated. You can use one hand, or two hands for the entire jelqing session. If the penis is big, it is preferred to use both hands for better pleasure. In fact, using both hands is better as it provides pressure on both the lateral sides of the cock.
20 to 30 minutes of this massage is more then enough, but it should be used every day. It doesn’t matter if it is done by you or your partner does it by himself. Beginners should prepare for jelqing with some simple warm-up exercises. Also, lubricating creams or oils must be applied on it, in order to make the penis massage smoother.
Don’t forget to talk during massage! Try to encourage your partner with some hot talk. It can be very helpful to turn him on and to ejaculate faster.
